Let them go!

Have you ever come across the “Let Them” theory? 

Of late, I have been through some heartache and pain, and I also came across lots of people who are confused at the crossroads of life and ministry. The journey of life and the road of ministry is not fair and easy going. We carry disappointments and discouragement, disillusionment and despair, betrayal and backstabbing, sometimes from those who we thought were near and dear. Bitterness and malice is the natural result of unforgiveness and resentment. Unforgiveness is drinking poison expecting the other person to die! 😆 

"Let them go!" is a wonderful principle to follow when you are broken hearted, feeling cheated and hurt. Here are a few related quotes:

Let them talk. Let them twist the story. Let them build their false reality. Your truth doesn’t need defense—it shines through results. While they waste energy on lies, you’ll be busy living a life they can only gossip about. 🌿✨

Ignore false narratives, avoid toxic people, focus on personal growth, change your mindset, enjoy perfect peace, know that truth prevails eventually, it's about moving forward, and letting go. Letting someone create a false narrative of you is a small price to pay for having rid yourself of their toxicity. Let them say what they want, your life will flourish, and their lies will rot theirs.

Why is it hard to let go of someone we love, even after heartbreak?

Love is a deep bond that does not change based on circumstances or a person’s actions. This is why, even when someone breaks our heart, we continue to love them and find it difficult to let go.

When we have to let go of someone, it can be challenging to accept the situation. Because we have loved the other person with all our heart, it’s hard to understand that they could disregard our love and hurt us. Whether the reasons are circumstantial, a betrayal, or a simple lack of interest in the relationship, if the other person wants to move on and doesn't change their mind even after you've expressed your feelings, it’s better to accept reality and let them go. 

Allow yourself to express your emotions, and open your heart to those you trust. However, gather your strength and remind yourself that, although that person may have meant a lot to you, if they have left you feeling alone in the dark, you haven’t done anything wrong by deciding to let them go.

The bottom line is: Let go. Not everyone is capable of bringing light into your life. If they want to loose you, let them. If they want to choose someone else over you, let them. If they can picture their life without you, let them.

"Let things break; stop trying so hard to keep them glued together.  

Let people get angry.  

Let them criticize you—their reaction is not your problem.  

Let everything fall apart, and don’t worry about what comes next.  

Where will I go? What will I do?  

What is meant to leave will leave anyway.  

What is meant to stay will remain.  

Whatever departs always makes room for something new—that’s the Universal Law.  

And never think there’s nothing good left for you. You just need to stop holding onto what needs to go."  

— Meryl Streep (Hollywood actress)

Another movie star, Julia Roberts once said:

"When people leave you, let them go. 

Your destiny is never tied to anyone who leaves you, and it doesn't mean they're bad people. It just means their role in your story is over." 

These words remind us of a truth that we often forget - that not everyone who comes into our lives is meant to stay forever. 

People come into our lives for different reasons, to teach us lessons, to share experiences or walking with us through certain seasons. 

But when they leave, it's important to recognize that their part in our journey has been fulfilled, and our paths must now diverge. 

Holding on to those who are meant to leave only delays your growth and prevents you from moving into the fullness of your own destiny.

It's not about rejecting or blaming the person who leaves, but rather understanding that your story continues beyond the chapter.

Sometimes their exit gives way to new opportunities, deeper connections, and the discovery of new aspects of yourself. 

Letting go isn't always easy, but it's essential to moving on to the next stage of your life. 

This does not diminish the importance of the relationship you once shared. Every encounter has value, shaping who you are and helping you grow. 

But when someone leaves, it's a sign that your journey is no longer lining up. 

Their departure doesn't make them a villain in your life story, just someone whose role has come to a natural end. 

When you release the weight of the departed, you create space for the people meant to stay and enrich your life in meaningful ways. 

Giving up is not an act of giving up; it's an act of acceptance - embracing the flow of life, understanding that not everyone is meant to accompany you to every destination. 

Remember, your destiny is yours. 

No one can take it from you, and no one else can walk the path that has been laid out for you. 

So when someone leaves, trust that it is for your highest good. 

They were part of your story, but now the rest is for you to write, and it holds even greater promise. 🖤🕊️🤍

We have to understand that reality bites! "Not everyone who comes into your life is meant to stay. Sometimes, you have to let them go. Letting go isn't giving up — it's growing up." said  Joe D' Mango. Choose peace over pain. Forgiveness over Vengeance. Release over Revenge. God's plan doesn't always come with explanations. But it always comes with a purpose. At hindsight, it will all work out fine, for our good, and for God's glory.

Let them judge you.

Let them misunderstand you. 

Let them gossip about you,

Let them ignore you.

Let them be "right."

Let them doubt you.

Let them not like you.

Let them not speak to you.

Let them make you out to be the villain.

Whatever it is that people want to say about you, let them! 

Kindly step aside and LET THEM.

The hard truth is they know how much they are hurting you. And they just simply don't care. They did it knowing it could cause them to lose you. And they did it anyway. People that love you care about how they make you feel. The end. Let them go. 

There will be people that would rather lose you than be honest about what they've done to you. Let them go. Period.

The lack of respect was the closure. The lack of apology was the closure. The lack of care was the closure. The lack of accountability was the closure. The lack of honesty was the closure. Let them go. 

Make the decision to no longer sit at tables where you might be the topic when you get up. Let them go. 

You can still be kind. You can even still love them deeply. But do it from the distance they created in their words and actions. Access to you is a privilege they have proven they can’t be trusted with. Let them go. 

You don’t need to tell your side of the story. God already knows. Let God fight the battle for you. Let them go. 

It’s taken me a long time to get here. Sleepless nights, countless tears, managing a range of emotions filled with anger, disappointment, confusion and deep hurt. Lots of self reflection, self preservation, deep prayer and seeking wisdom from those much wiser than me.  

If you are struggling with this please know you are not alone. We will never understand why hurt people hurt people. But we can do the hard work to grow ourselves. Because healed people do in fact heal people. 

Don’t you dare let them steal your joy. 

Don’t you dare let them steal your light. 

Don’t you dare let them steal your peace. 

You are in control of that. 

Hold tight to what you can control and release your grip on what you can’t control.

Let them go.

Don’t hate them.

Hate is heavy — and they’re not worth the weight.

When you carry anger, they win twice: once when they hurt you, and again when you let them live rent-free in your mind.

Free yourself. Let them go, not for their peace — but for yours.

Some people are chapters, not the whole story.

Let them be the lesson, not the anchor.

Don't hate them. They don't deserve a place in your mind.

"Forgiving someone doesn't mean you have to trust them again; it means you've chosen to let go of the past and free yourself."

Lately, I’ve been learning to embrace all of this  in my own life and relationships. For a long time, I put up with things I shouldn’t have because I was scared of losing people. But I’ve realized that if someone truly cares about you, they won’t treat you badly. You don’t have to keep forgiving or overlooking disrespect just to keep the peace. Sometimes, the best thing you can do is let people be who they are—let them judge, misunderstand, gossip, or even make you the villain. 

So, let them be upset. Let them ignore you. Let them doubt you. Let them not like you. Let them run your name into the ground or make you out to be the villain. Whatever it is they want to say or do, let them. Their actions say more about them than they ever will about you.

Letting Go! 💔 Letting go isn’t easy. It takes courage to release what no longer serves you. But the truth is the tighter you hold on, the harder it becomes to let go. Courage is moving forward despite being afraid. Trust that what’s meant for you will find you. Trust that you are strong enough to walk away from what weighs you down. Your next chapter is waiting. The best is yet to come. Learn from past experiences and mistakes, but do not let them define your future. Life must go on. ❤️

Pandita Ramabai is quoted to have said, "A life committed to God has nothing to lose, nothing to prove, nothing to fear, and nothing to regret." Corrie Ten Boom once quipped, "Hold everything in your hands lightly, otherwise it hurts when God pries your fingers open." 

Let go and let God.

(Compilation of related quotes on the topic by Rev. Anil Alexander)